I try to read at least one inspirational article or blog post a day, and yesterday’s reading consisted of an article entitled The most important question of your life by Mark Manson.
I have to say, reading this article made me think of my husband, Ricardo Harvey, who speaks in a similar manner and says a lot of the same things that Mark highlighted in this article.
One of the main reasons I embarked on my journey to minimalism was to create a perpetual “path of least resistance”. I wanted to simplify my life to the point that everything I did required little or no effort. I wanted to create an easy and effortless life. After all, this is what makes me happy… right?
The problem with this is that I’m not making room for the pain, so how am I supposed to make any progress? This is pretty much what I have been battling with a lot lately. Do I step out of my comfort zone and challenge myself? Have I got the balls or the energy for this?
So, now, instead of asking myself “What do I want to enjoy?”, I am now asking myself this thought-provoking question: “What pain do I want to sustain?”.
When I ask myself this question it forces me to think strategically about what it is I really want. It also gives me the opportunity to question my current wants… do I even want it? Am I merely in love with the outcome or the idea of it?
Here is an excerpt from Mark Manson’s post:
Who you are is defined by the values you are willing to struggle for. People who enjoy the struggles of a gym are the ones who get in good shape. People who enjoy long workweeks and the politics of the corporate ladder are the ones who move up it. People who enjoy the stresses and uncertainty of the starving artist lifestyle are ultimately the ones who live it and make it. This is not a call for willpower or “grit.” This is not another admonishment of “no pain, no gain.” This is the most simple and basic component of life: our struggles determine our successes. So choose your struggles wisely, my friend. ~ Mark Manson
So the bottom line is – no matter what I want, I’m going to have to give up something or make a sacrifice in order to have what I want or be really good at it. I’m going to have to be okay with pissing people off along the way. I’m going to have to suck it up and just do it. I’m going to have to think with my head and not my feelings. Procrastination is no longer an option.
It’s time to embrace the art of not giving a fuck.